“Pourquoi………?”………“Why………?”

Have you got stuck half way through your sentences, while trying to make a point and wonder what u have to say next……….?

It happens to me most of the times…! Not only for the fact that I got the extraordinary talent of forgetting things in a jIfFy, but also because most of the times, I just cant put in exact words for my emotions…! I have always had this problem, of assuming, understanding & explaining a situation or a problem in a totally different way, than most of my friends…and have ended up quarrelling, fighting and sometimes even losing my friends…!

The most recent of such an argument, was with one of my friends, on the topic – “LoVe” – the feeling that’s got to have your hands and knees shaking, sweating beads of perspiration forming, have a dry throat and a dazed look (or so the amazing movies of Hollywood and Bollywood say…!).

She and I,went on arguing for a long time and at one point I couldn explain myself to her anymore and I dropped the argument….this rarely happens to me coz I’m a gal who loves arguing n wont stop till I get my point across…she then told me, "write it down gal, coz u are able to express yourself better that way."…And thus I sat down to write this - a piece of ma mind…Just for the sake of it…!

The argument began to outta control from the point where I stated (as I always do), “I don’t get it!!! Why do people fall in love?” and my friend started explaining to me that, “love, does not happen after a good day’s planning, but happens all of a sudden…!” Agreed! But why does it have to have catastrophe as it reaction?(all the time - according to me, only sometimes - according to my friend…!)

As a matter of fact, I am not a person against love, though I don understand very well about that ABSTRACT feeling or whatever it is called…But my only question is, “Shouldn’t Love supposed to keep the ones who fall for it happy? Shouldn’t it make lives better, than destroy it? Why does it happen in such a situation where it’s very clear that happiness is not in the way?” I have always presumed and assumed that “LOVE” should have a happy ending…I know expecting fairy-tale-happy-ending all the time is ridiculous, but when the picture is clear, stating the fact beautifully, that the pathway will not lead to happiness if love comes that way, then why do people want to be in the horrible path, falling 'MADLY' in love…!

Oh…did I use the term 'MADLY' with which people take advantage of (the word) “LOVE”?

Just because there are examples of people who walked on the surface of earth, exclaimed to be MADLY in love, everyone around now, are taking that phrase for their advantage to escape questions like, “Why did u fall in love when u know its not going to work out?” they don’t have an answer which clarifies their point of view, but explains to the one listening about how insecure the person is…!

If its not insecurity or the feeling of being totally unsure, why do they say they don know why they fell in love, even when they know its not going to end up giving happiness to them and to the other?…What is the use in calling a feeling 'love', when it is not being reciprocated?

TRUE is the fact, that love doubles n give more happiness when its given or shared…but wat about the love which is, yes…given, but is not accepted…! Only when its accepted does it give happiness…Otherwise, it ruins even the little happiness that’s around that person…!

If I accept the fact that love can happen anywhere, to anyone and towards anyone, then any person can fall in love with anyone, irrespective of age and marital status ( I as a person consider only these two as important factor for a man and a woman to be happy together… as again, this is knowledge, collected from novels I read and movies I watch . By marital status I mean unattached by the bond of marriage or the bond of love…) Any one could have any number of 'love' in their life going hand in hand at the same time…This thouhgt if becomes true, then rather than calling ourselves 'civilized', we should start calling ourselves 're-incarnations of the ape men'.

Such a behaviour would be wrong, Isn't it? most of might not accept when i say,' mistakes done by mistake is forgiveable, but a mistake done knowingly is equal to sin'...Extra-marital affair is wrong, but having a side track in one's love life aint wrong???

Most of the one-siders ( ones who love some one n haven told the person about the love, but still keep longing for the love and those who love someone and their love’s not been reciprocated-due to various reasons) think this is the last thing that can happen to them and they have lost the love of their life…but I think its their mistake…if there had to be love in their life from that particular person, then it would surely reach them, but if it doesn’t come, then they are searching or waiting for it at the wrong door-step…

I know many will not agree with my views ( most of my own friends don’t…most of them react saying, “you don know how it is gal, so drop it.”), but even from the point of view of a person who has witnessed love only from the audience perspective, I think that LOVE is being HARASSED for what it is not………!

Only love aint gonna help anyone…Love implied correctly to the right person is a BOON…!

Wish I am blessed with the BOON soon.... :-)

LOVE
Alien