...I wonder

'Why so?' is a question I have always asked anyone who told me 'It has to be done only this way'. I never thought that was right except of course certain things couldn't be changed, like cooking or sewing, etc. As a girl (in India), there has always been a lot of things that I couldn't question. I was always shut up with a simple sentence that goes like 'Just do as you are told'. Things are no different even when marriage has come in the picture. After own family telling us what to do and how to do, a new family is replaced and takes up the same work without any hesitance and we live by it because we always did.

Most of our life time we spend listening to some one or the other and we rarely notice that we never listened to ourselves. Childhood flies by listening to parents and teachers. Teenage whooshes past with us listening to family, professors and friends. Later comes the worst part, the society. Every single person we meet tells us what is wrong and what is correct, the best thing to do and the best way to do it, the best college to join and the best course to study, for the love of joy they even told us what to we should like and what we should not.

At times I am sure we felt like turning around and saying, ‘enough’; but we never did.
WHY? I wonder…

A mother to be

She walked out of the gynecologist’s with her head held high,
Like she had won the only gold in Olympics
‘Look at her. What’s with the glow?’ people asked
Only for her to shy away with a smile that meant ‘I know and u don’t’.

She glides through the crowd as if they were clouds
Makes her way in and out like a fish in the weeds
All around her there was chaos but inside her was peace
Peace that if reached the world outside, would bring serenity.

Life with all its wonder has began to grow with in her
‘Congratulations’ said the gynecologist, ‘Thank god’ was her reaction
‘What’s god got to do with? Thank your husband’ smiled the gynec.
Smiling like a child, she walked out of the gynecologist’s with her head held high.

WTH!

The feeling of uncertainty is a part of everyone’s life. I am sure all of you have felt that at some point of time or the other. There is so much that you want and so much more that happens. Why is this so? We have no idea.
Life changes so drastically all of a sudden that we are at times flabbergasted at the speed of the change. As Indians, we live in a society which has set standards that has to be followed. Most of the times, I have questioned the functioning of the same. But it was always in vain. We Indians have grown a great deal when it comes to binding with family, especially our daughters. From considering them as commodities, we have now started looking at them on par with anyone else. But, sometimes, something holds back most of us or all of us.
Every girl, irrespective of her stature in the society, is expected to compromise. This again, I am not stating that no man compromises. My point is that a woman is expected to compromise, by default. And my question is, ‘Why?’